You're A Bridesmaid - So Start Acting Like One!

Music - a big part of the big wedding day. Maybe you've already decided if you want to choose a DJ or a wedding band, but how do you know what songs to pick?

The idea is to have a good balance. You want songs that people will dance to and appreciate, and you also want songs that mean something to your relationship. And not just the relationship between the newlyweds. You also want songs that relate to friendship and family. 

Ah, you're a bridesmaid!

You've heard all of the horror stories about how expensive it can be, how your dear friend will turn into a brideszilla, and this will be a true test to your friendship. 

It's not that bad! In fact, it's not bad at all. It's what you make of it, so fear not. 

There are a lot of fears about being a bridesmaid, so we wanted to share some of our favorites. 

We know. Being a bridesmaid isn't always easy. It can be expensive and you may have a to wear a dress that you don't love, but now is not the time to complain. 

You should always remind yourself that being a bridesmaid or part of the bridal party is a honor. It's another way of telling you how special you are to this bride-to-be and she couldn't imagine having her big day without you by her side. That's one of the nicest gestures you'll ever get! So appreciate it. 

When people think of weddings, they think of a great time! A great time with a lot of dancing. If you want guests to be dancing than there has to be music. 

Lucky you! You're the maid of honor (or MOH). You know what that means - speech, speech! 

Take the time to prepare what you are going to say. This needs to be well thought out and have a good balance. Write it out if you need to or if you feel comfortable, you can always wing it! Remember that there is nothing wrong with reading off a piece of paper or note cards. 

A piece of advice, when you are writing your speech, count how many times you say/write "I" or "we". It's important to make this speech personal, but it should really be about the bride and her new marriage. Guests won't understand your inside jokes, and those can always be saved for a private card to the bride.

The ceremony is over and even more fun is about to begin. All of the guests are patiently awaiting for the bridal party to make their big entrance. Now, the idea isn't to just walk in, flash a smile, and give a wave. You are the bridal party! You've got to set the tone for the evening and you have to show everyone that you are ready for a good time. 

Bridal showers need a lot of planning. You need to find a place, plan the food, determine which drinks to serve, and think about having a gift that guests can leave with. When you are deciding on what guest gifts to provide, you want to make sure it's something that they will take home with them. You also don't want to go over budget in this area either. 

There are several different options out there, but one clever idea is having a candy bar. A candy bar allows the bridal shower guests to create their own goody bag and also satisfying their sweet tooth. 

The candy bar can have some classics or you can get create and even bake your own candy. 

You're trying to do what?! You're going to say no to being a bridesmaid? 

Bridal showers need a lot of planning. You need to find a place, plan the food, determine which drinks to serve, and think about having a gift that guests can leave with. When you are deciding on what guest gifts to provide, you want to make sure it's something that they will take home with them. You also don't want to go over budget in this area either. 

There are several different options out there, but one clever idea is having a candy bar. A candy bar allows the bridal shower guests to create their own goody bag and also satisfying their sweet tooth. 

The candy bar can have some classics or you can get create and even bake your own candy. 

Surprisingly, we hear this question a lot. There is a lot of pressure behind being a bridesmaid, but most importantly there's an even bigger honor behind being asked. 

Everyone will have their own reasons for why they may need to back out from being part of the bridal party - a family emergency, financial issues, or maybe even a friendship that's growing apart. 

Truth be told, there isn't really a good way of backing out and the ultimate decision shouldn't be yours. It should be from the bride.